
Freely Sober
Freely Sober, Ericka Andersen. InterVarsity Press (ISBN: 9781514013366) 2026.
Summary: Writing for Christian women from experience with alcohol dependency and recovery, offers help in honest thinking about alcohol.
She was a Christian active in her church. She led Bible studies with other women, cared for her children and worked. And she increasingly suspected her relationship with alcohol wasn’t a helpful one, especially when she covered up her secret drinking and the effects of hangovers. And it was easy to justify. Drinks (sometimes too many) with friends. Wine while making dinner as well as with it. She knew the health effects of alcohol but continued to struggle with the need to drink. Finally, she acknowledged she had a problem, eventually reaching out to online and in-person groups, and finding renewed hope through her faith as she took steps toward sobriety. This is Ericka Andersen’s story and she writes for other Christian women who think it might be their story as well.
Instead of ultimatums or shaming, Andersen invites her readers to be “sober curious.”
“Being ‘sober curious’ was the catalyst for shifting my perspective in a life-changing direction. Being sober curious means asking questions about drinking–yours, theirs, and everyone’s. It means educating yourself about alcohol and asking insightful questions about how drinking affects you and those around you without judgment” (p. 22).
This “sober curious” approach is what is behind the “freely” in the title. Rather than add to the pressures in a reader’s life, she invites them, if they are uneasy about their own relationship to alcohol, to explore and then freely make their own decisions, empowered by this process and their faith. “Freely” also refers to the freedom she has experienced in sobriety “where you don’t question when, how much, or if you should drink at all.”
Each chapter comes with exercises that foster this curiosity. Perhaps the most important is at the end of the first chapter, “Let’s Come Clean.” Questions walk the reader through considering the impact of alcohol on their physical health, faith life, relationships, emotional and mental well-being, and professional life and calling. Then Andersen explores the question of whether Christians should drink. She comes down on this as an expression of our freedom in Christ. But if it fosters captivity rather than freedom, that is good reason to not exercise that freedom.
She then explore the unique tensions women experience, including social pressures. Andersen looks at how alcohol is used to self-medicate as a coping mechanism. Then there are the triggering situations that precede drinking and beginning to choose alternative responses when you recognize the triggers. Amidst all this her watchword is self-compassion and forgiveness. She calls out the bad theologies that stigmatize those who struggle with alcohol.
Instead, she traces a healing journey that begins with inviting God and others into one’s life. She talks about the places where one may find support. Healthy habits, positive triggers are discussed and identified. She honestly discusses the positive experiences one may associate with alcohol, and her own discovery that many didn’t require alcohol. Andersen is also honest about when we fail and that many relapse, and then get up and return to sobriety.
The book mixes spiritual encouragement with practical steps as well as honesty that admits that living sober can be hard but that “it works if you work it.” Andersen is candid about her own struggles and failures, including a relapse after giving a public testimony. The book also offers a variety of books, resources, and recovery groups.
While written for women, men can find benefit as well. This may be an especially helpful book for spouses of women going through recovery. It would not surprise me that alcohol dependency among women in the church is far higher than one might think. The good news is that one needn’t struggle in secret, that one can freely choose to be sober curious, that there is a community to support us, and a God who longs for our healing. Ericka Andersen’s book is tangible evidence for all of this.
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Disclosure of Material Connection: I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher for review.




