
When God Seems Distant
When God Seems Distant, Kyle Strobel and John Coe. Baker Books (ISBN: 9781540905321) 2026.
Summary: How God’s path of growth takes us into the desert, the way it exposes our self-will, and how we abide in God’s love.
One of the things that often accompanies new life in Christ is a deep sense of God’s presence, what the authors of this book call consolation. Often, experiences of worship, Christian community, personal Bible study and prayer deepen that sense. Until it doesn’t. How ought we understand and respond to that? We wonder if it is something we did. Then, if that’s not the case, we double down on the things that gave us a sense of God’s presence. Or we look for new practices.
Kyle Strobel and John Coe describe how this happened with them. It felt like they were in a dry place, a desert. And they discovered that these times of desolation, just as much as consolation, come from God. Specifically, God takes us into such times to expose deeper patterns of sin. He also takes us into learning to abide in Him rather than engage in sin management or self-improvement efforts. We learn to trust God rather than experiences or a set of practices. But its scary, just like being weaned.
The authors then address the “self-willed spirituality” that the desert teaches us to unlearn. Over five chapters, they explore different ways the self-will manifests. First, they discuss self-generated passion and experiences of excitement and devotion to generate a sense of God’s presence. Second, they turn to how we deal with brokenness in our lives, either by coverups or by trying to “fix” ourselves. Underlying this is pride. The desert exposes these, inviting us to draw near to be forgiven and loved. Third, we resort to goodness, the path of moralism. We use goodness to win God’s favor and then struggle under the burden of conscience when we fail. Again, in the desert, God invites us to come close and to let him do what we can’t.
Fourth, we try devotion. The authors observe, “There is a massive difference between using God to fix your life and knowing that Christ is your life” (p. 124). Paradoxically, we can either use spiritual practices in a self-help fashion or as a means to wait upon God. Lastly, and this has been implicit throughout, we try to fix ourselves rather than let our awareness of our inadequacy move us to surrender, to openness to what God’s Spirit would do.
The final part of the book, then, emphasizes the alternative to self-willed spirituality. It is the spirituality of surrender, of coming with all the mess the desert reveals. It is drawing near, not to an idea of God but God himself. We come not because we love, but that he has loved us in Christ. The book then concludes with five paths that individuals and churches might take in response. Particularly striking were those addressed to churches as a whole that often fail to address the desert, and to pastors.
I found the honesty about the desert as a normal part of Christian experience helpful. Many of our churches make people feel themselves failing in some way if they are experiencing this. Rather, they should be teaching people “desert spirituality.” Also, the second part of the book was so helpful in identifying our self-help strategies that we embrace in pride, rather than bring our messy selves to God. Finally, there is the wonderful news that all this is to teach us to abide in and rest in God’s love, whether there are feelings or not. God wants us to grow into a resilient trust.
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Disclosure of Material Connection: I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher for review through LibraryThing’s Early Reviewers Program.








